Ugh.......maybe I'm trying to achieve the impossible but w/ my lovely silk yarn I can't seem to get a gauge that I like. My stockinette stitch looks too open. I went down from a 4.25mm (I think it was a 4.25mm or a 4.50mm) to a 3.50mm and it basically looks the same. Is this the way it is supposed to look? This is my first time using lace weight yarn and maybe I can't achieve a tight stockinette as one would with wool. With an open stockinette, will the pattern still show. I'm afraid it will be difficult to see pattern. Please respond with your thoughts and pictures (close-ups) if possible of your stockinette portion. I have a blurry picture of mine that I posted the other day if you want to see what I'm talking about.
ETA: How are you supposed to check your swatch measurement? Stretch or unstretched? Unstretched, my swatch isn't wide enough (3.5"), stretched it just makes 4".